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Their Problem is Not Your Problem



Know this, their problem is not your problem.


I get it. You are a kind person who loves to help others, even when they aren’t asking for your help.


If you’re being entirely honest, it feels nice to be needed. Doesn’t it?


It’s a step closer to irreplaceable and being irreplaceable brings a level of certainty and sure footing you’ve always longed for.


But your slice of comfort comes at a huge expense.


By your own doing, you’ve created a world where everyone else’s bullshit is your responsibility.


Perhaps it’s the constant favors your agree to


or


Sometimes it comes on a much deeper subconscious level, like when you secretly criticize other people’s actions because you know better.



“Why the fuck is she doing it that way? Doesn’t she know that’s not going to work?”


“Here, just let me “help” her.”


“This fucking place would fall about without me!”



or


You have thoughts of a martyr or victim.



“I do everything for everyone and no one does shit for me.”


“I don’t want to have to tell you what I want. You should just know.”



But here is the truth of the matter and this may sound callous….


All this misery you create for yourself, all this drama, it doesn’t make you special.


You don’t need to control everyone.


You can let them fail and learn.


You don’t need to spend your days anticipating everyone else’s needs and wants before your own.


It doesn’t make you a better person because you are selfless, because….


It’s not a selfless act.


It’s selfish.


You are looking to fill a hole by making yourself irreplaceable to others.


It’s a hole that will never been filled because with every scoop you shovel in, someone in your life will take a heap out.


You will be left saying things like, “No matter how much I do, it’s never enough.''


Now that I’ve beaten you down, know this…..


YOU ARE SPECIAL.


YOU ARE SPECIAL SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU WERE BORN.


You do not need to fall on the sword to feel that, know that, prove that to everyone around you.


It simply is the case because that is what it must be.


You are not a workhorse that is only of value when you are doing things for other people.



YOU ARE SPECIAL SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU WERE BORN.


Once you can know that and accept that to be true, you will be relieved of the pressure to perform for love.


The beauty is in the release.


Your life will greatly improve, but not before it gets worse.


Here is why…


When you stop taking on everyone else’s bullshit, they revolt.


When you get stood up for a lunch date by your friend and, for the first time in your life, you let her know that you won’t be able to reschedule on account of their lack of respect for you…


They are going to fucking HATE it.


Because they have gotten real used to treating you as an afterthought.


Because YOU treated yourself like one.


You must hold strong.


Remember…



YOU ARE SPECIAL SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU WERE BORN.


You will want to give in.


You will be put in uncomfortable situations.


The people around you might even say things that make you question yourself.



“Maybe I am being selfish and irrational? Maybe I am a bitch? Maybe she IS right.”



BUT YOU HOLD STRONG because there is a light at the end of all of this.


A new world will open up to you when you set and hold boundaries.


Eventually you will be able to release any anxiety or resentment.


And you will simply know that



YOU ARE SPECIAL SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU WERE BORN.


When you know this to be true you begin to find pockets of time for YOU.


Those pockets where previously reserved for other people’s matter are now utilized for fitness or meal prep.


You begin to build confidence.


You have less anxiety and almost zero emotional eating.


Life begins to get a little bit more magical and you dare to want more for yourself because you now know that….



YOU ARE SPECIAL SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU WERE BORN.



Release the self imposed burdens. Only you can free yourself.




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