I want to tell you a little story about two women I’ve come across. They were both seeking out the right diet but they went about it two very different way and as I reflected on that I thought, “Wow! They are going to find this so fascinating!!”.
A Woman I had a Consultation with:
This woman told me the following:
“I’ve tried a million diets, but none of them worked for me”.
"I just wanted to lose 40 pounds and be done with it.”
Asked her what diets had she tried and each and everyone of them had similarities.
Want to know what they were?
Each diet had:
A start date and an end date, most were 30 days or less
Strict rules of what she could eat and what she couldn’t
"NONE OF THOSE DIETS WORKED FOR ME!"
I flipped the script on her a bit and asked, “I’m hearing you say the diet didn’t work for you, but what have you done for your diet?”
Oh course she was like, “wha?” because that seems like a strange question.
"Well, you tried keto. Tell me what your exit strategy was going to be when you lost the weight."
“I hadn’t really thought about that. I just want to lose the weight fast and I’ll figure the rest out later”.
That’s total normal that she did that because we make decision with emotion, not critical thinking.
I told her that I encourage her to think about how she wants her life to be after she loses the weight and we can determine the right diet for her once we know that.
So I asked:
How do you want to feel?
What do you think you will be eating on the average day a year from now?
How active do you want to be?
She got very frustrated and said:
“I don’t know! I just want to lose the weight fast. I’m sick of it.”
She had a hard time removing the emotion and getting into thinking about this whole diet thing in a very different way. We didn’t end up working together.
Now I want to tell you about a client of mine. I’m going to change her name to Heather.
Heather lost a total of 42 pounds during our time together and she has kept it off for 2 ½ years.
I check in with old clients a few times a year because we’ve built such close relationships and I care about them.
I told her I was doing a podcast on this topic and asked her for her 2 cents.
This is what she had to say:
“I’ve tried a million diets before and I realize that I can’t keep doing the same thing and expecting different results.”
“I wanted to be able to have a Portillo’s hot dog from time to time, but I also wanted to eat food that made me feel good. We worked on creating balance and I can’t remember the last time I binged!”
“I didn’t always make the best choice, but I didn’t expect to be perfect. I focused on consistently tracking, the good, the bad, the ugly. If I messed up, I got back on track right away.
“There was no start date or end date. This has been a journey since I started with you and I continue to grow and get better and better”.
“My arms are getting pretty ripped too LOL”
So that’s the difference:
If weight loss is on your to do list for 2019, take some time to write out and journal on the following:
“After I lose _____ pounds I want to be eating ______________ but also __________________ and I want to feel ________________________.
Whatever your answers, you need to practice being that person.
Work towards eating that way now
Work towards moving your body that now
Work towards making the healthy choices she would make
It will take time. Show yourself grace.
Most likely you will be undoing years of all or nothing mentality of strict fad diets. But just like anything you want to get really good at, if you continue to practice and see bumps in the road as an opportunity to learn rather than a failure, you will get there!!!