Episode #145: Stop Shoulding Yourself in 4 Easy Steps

Updated: Apr 24

Are you "shoulding" all over yourself?

Find yourself sitting there doing one thing, feeling guilty about it because you think/want to be doing something else?

You want to get up and workout, but you just can't seem to get the inertia.

Damn it!

Don't worry. Here are 4 easy steps to stop shoulding, starting doing what you want, and letting go of what you don't.

1. Decide "why"

Why do you think you should get up and do the thing? Is it because it's something you want, but haven't made automatic yet? Good, then head to step 2.

If you are "shoudling" because you think that's what other people want you to do but you don't want it, then own that. You are a grownass adult, right? Tell yourself, "I am not doing this thing because I don't want this thing and I am releasing all guilt from that."

On the other hand, it is very possible that you do what the thing but that you haven't created a clear enough vision of what doing the thing will get you. You haven't attached a desired result that is going to allow you to feel the way you want to feel, then you won't have a strong enough pull to ever get up.

Tricky right?

That's why we are extensively covering this in the 7-Week GlowUp. This can't be taught in a blog post or podcast.

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2. Motive

Ask yourself, "What am I going to get out of this?" We only do things that we get something out of. We believe we will feel a certain way by doing the thing. To take yourself from "should" to "must", get clear on how you are going to benefit from it.

3. Intention

When is this thing going to happen? I personally don't think you need to get up immediately everytime you feel a "should" come on. If you find yourself on the couch but you want to get a workout in, then tell yourself, "I am getting up in 25 minutes no matter what."

Set an alarm on your phone and honor it. If the alarm goes off and you still can't seem to get up, then the odds are that you haven't created a strong enough "why."

HINT: "Whys" are NOT, "I am to feel good for my kids." It's much deeper than that. Again, this is work we will cover in the 7-Week GlowUp. Click here to learn more before the doors close.

4. Acknowledge

When you do get up and do that damn thing, don't forget to notice how good it feels to be a woman of your word. Take time to look for all the benefits of your hard work. You did something great. You stopped a cycle. Give yourself some props you Bad Bitch.

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